Monday, October 09, 2006

Bucking the Norm

Somebody on one of my message boards (who happens to be in the article!) posted this article about larger families. It also mentions Laura from Project Runway who is expecting her sixth baby.

There was one quote that made a me roll my eyes a bit.
“The majority of the large families I know have made adjustments — the kids share bedrooms, they don’t always get new toys,” she said. “It’s more a question of valuing things a little differently.”
This is one thing I do not understand. There seems to be this new American standard that kids need their own room. Not that its wrong if your children have their own rooms, but to think that a child is being deprived because he has to -gasp- share a room is just absurd to me.

13 Comments:

Anonymous Sandy said...

Not only does it seem to be the norm that they have their own bedroom, but their own bathroom, TV, computer, etc. Things sure have changed.

I read a study at some point that said that people who shared bedrooms tended to get along better with other people as they grow up. And so many people talk about late night whispering with siblings and how much fun that kind of thing was.

3:23 PM  
Blogger DDK23 said...

Thank you Thank you Thank you! I get so annoyed by this myself. Why is it so weird that siblings actually share a room. I have heard excuses like "oh they just don't get along" "there is not enough roon". My sister and I never really got along sharing a room, but you know what? I learned to DEAL WITH IT.....arrgggh! Its not about getting along great, but learning how to deal with different personalities and how to keep something neat even when you don't have total control over it. Although we didn't get along all that well, my sister and I would talk at night sometimes and make each other laugh, then she would entertain me when she talked in her sleep. I wouldn't give that up for my own room.

4:36 PM  
Blogger Wethyb said...

Heather and I shared a room til I was 15!! Nothng at all wrong w/ kids sharing rooms.

8:01 PM  
Blogger Risa a.k.a. MomNoBlackHair said...

I agree too! My kids, a boy and a girl, though still pretty young, share a room because there isn't any other options. When my brother and I were probably 9 and 10 we shared a bedroom for a year because circumstances didn't allow for us to have our own rooms. I didn't suffer any though I would say it's harder for a boy and a girl to share a room, it's definately do-able if necessary.
If I more than one of either they would definately share a room just because I believe that it developes a stronger bond with a sibling that they don't get by being seperated by walls.

8:31 PM  
Blogger Makeesha said...

ugh, I know, seriously.

we have 2 kids and they'll be sharing a room.

10:02 AM  
Blogger Genevieve said...

nothing wrong with kids sharing a room. My sister & I shared a room off & on until I was 11.

There's a whole worldwide trend these days of families chosing to live in cities (or closer in) and giving up space for time. (like, having a shorter commute so the parents can spend more time with the kids) that for sure will lead to more kids sharing rooms, and kids having less stuff in general!

10:18 AM  
Blogger Choppzs said...

Makes me wanna puke! lol Girly gets her own room, but the boys already share a room. I wouldn't mind having a larger house, with more rooms, but I bet if we did, I would probably end up making that other room into a den or playroom before splitting the boys up! lol And I am sick of people asking me if we are done having kids, and when I say no they tell me I am nuts. Then they usually ask what if we have another boy, will we keep going? And my answer is yes, we will keep going till we have another girl!! lol Then they really look at me like I am nuts! lol Kids are so spoiled rotten these days that sharing isn't even in their vocabulary. I think it brings kids closer when they have to share things, especially when they have to share living spaces!

10:30 AM  
Blogger Dana said...

Everyone in my house shares a room. Heck, I even share a room with DH! So, I don't feel at all sorry that my boys have to share a room. I must say, they don't often get along and they all think they deserve their own room but there are times when I hear giggles and whisperings and "I'm just going to read him ONE more story, Ok Mom?" I don't think that I'm ruining my boys in anyway by forcing them to share. I say forcing because at times they'd rather sleep in the stairwell than sleep "in that room, with HIM!" They'll get over it eventually.

11:33 AM  
Blogger mommaobrienx7 said...

I have had to put up with comments from people about our family size for years. Yes, our children share rooms. Yes, we are cramped for space. With seven children in a three bedroom house it's bound to get cramped.

But you know what? We are happy. Our kids aren't deprived of anything. Not our time or getting to do what other kids do. Sure they may be deprived of things that a lot of the kids nowdays have. We have one computer for our entire family, one television and no our children don't get fancy clothes and toys. We can't afford it. But we knew that when we took on having a large family. But we also knew the joy that would come from a home full of children.

My kids have one another. And when we see them interacting with one another that is all the validation we need that we made the right choice in opening our hearts and home to a bunch of kids.

2:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can't tell you how many crazy looks I get when i mention that my kids will share a room.

3:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My kids share rooms. Isn't that an important value to have, the ability to share?

With baby number 5 due very soon, I hate the comments I get, ranging from rude to plain offensive. Each of my children are unique, kind, loving and caring, and I wouldn't change anything in my household. I LOVE raising children. I love the sound of children laughing and whispering. I love watching them grow and change.

And when they wrap their arms around me for a 'big cuddle' it makes me feel a million dollars.

Big Families? Fabulous!

11:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

absolutely! When I was growing up we didn't have a 'big' family but I still shared a room with my brother till we were 17, it never seemed like a big deal infact I think it was good for us as we learned to get along and appreciate differences

8:10 AM  
Blogger Mrs. Melody said...

Hi just stopped by. I had a comment on the room sharing.

I wonder what they think of people who in the "olden days" shared a bed with their siblings?

Nothing wrong with sharing a room in my book. :)

Have a blessed day

10:55 AM  

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